We recently had the chance to connect with Dr. Rachael Meir and have shared our conversation below.
Rachael, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What do the first 90 minutes of your day look like?
My partners, Aaron and Kasey, and I wake up at 6 AM and start our day together—brushing our teeth, then heading to the gym as a trio. Exercising together not only energizes our bodies but strengthens our connection—it’s a moment to check in, laugh, and support one another before the day’s demands take over. When we return home, I make protein shakes for everyone, and then we all shower and get ready. This shared rhythm grounds us and reminds us that our relationship is a priority, even before the workday begins. It’s simple, intentional, and it keeps us aligned emotionally and physically as we step into the world.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m Dr. Rachael, a psychologist specializing in sex-positive, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and BDSM/kink-aware therapy. My work focuses particularly on ethical non-monogamy and helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of nontraditional relationships. Early in my career, I noticed how few therapists truly understood these dynamics, and I made it my mission to fill that gap.
I’m also the author of 50 Questions To Ask Before Opening Your Relationship and the creator of the Thriving Throuples Retreat—our inaugural event takes place October 23–26 in St. Pete Beach. The response has been overwhelmingly positive, and I’m already planning two to four retreats annually, with the next one scheduled for May 2026.
On the personal side, I am in a closed polyamorous triad with Aaron and Kasey. Aaron works as a business compliance manager in the wine and liquor industry, which means our home is never without excellent beverages. Kasey is a customer training manager for an AI tech automotive startup. Together, we’re navigating the beautiful complexity of polyamorous life, learning and growing daily, and supporting others who want to do the same. Our relationship is a living example of connection, communication, and conscious love.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What breaks the bonds between people—and what restores them?
Bonds are broken through betrayal, broken trust, one-sided effort, and an unwillingness to see the world through another person’s eyes. Significant differences in personal growth or values can also create distance if people stop meeting each other where they are. When we stop investing in understanding and nurturing the relationship, it falters.
Restoration, however, is possible when intention meets action. It’s about showing up consistently, taking responsibility without defensiveness, offering and accepting forgiveness, and making a genuine effort to reconnect. True repair requires all parties to be vulnerable, committed, and willing to do the work. It’s rarely easy, but the process itself strengthens the bond, often creating a connection that’s even deeper than before.
Was there ever a time you almost gave up?
Absolutely—in this very relationship. Transitioning from a 20-year heterosexual monogamous marriage into a triad relationship that included my first significant same-sex partnership was incredibly challenging. There were moments of doubt when I questioned everything: Is this worth it? Can we really make this work? The learning curve was steep, the emotions intense, and some days felt overwhelming.
But staying committed and pushing through the difficulty revealed something profound: the most meaningful growth often comes at the moment you feel like giving up. These moments tested our resilience, communication, and trust—but they also taught us how to create a love that’s richer, more expansive, and deeply aligned with who we are.
So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. How do you differentiate between fads and real foundational shifts?
I look for consistency over time and alignment with core values rather than surface-level interests or temporary desires. Fads often involve going with the masses—doing what everyone else is doing because of the hype. Foundational shifts, on the other hand, require staying true to your authentic self even when it means going against the grain. Real change isn’t about what’s trendy; it’s about what resonates deeply with who you are at your core.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. If you laid down your name, role, and possessions—what would remain?
What remains is my love for those closest to me, my curiosity to explore the world, and my desire to immerse myself in new cultures, experiences, and perspectives. It’s the hunger to feed my mind and heart with growth and adventure. And, of course, the love for my dog, Tally, who reminds me daily that joy is found in the small, present moments. Everything else—the titles, possessions, and accolades—is just wrapping paper. The real gifts are love, curiosity, and the moments that make life feel fully lived.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.drrachaelmeir.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drrachaelmeircoaching/
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drrachaelmeircoaching/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/triadandtrue
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@triadandtrue3633
Image Credits
Western Pine Photography (Brittany Redding)
Nomad Family Photo Group (Ashlee Werter)
Sarah Hoag Photography (Sarah Hoag)
